OK, there are about three ways to view the supernatural gifts of the Holy Spirit, two opposites and then one in the dead center,
1.) You must be filled with the evidence of speaking in tongues,
2.) The other extreme is that tongues is of the devil and not for today,
3.) I personally feel both are wrong. Even though I've experienced the filling and only afterwards received by faith the gift of tongues with NO emotional experience. The emotional experience I had was being filled with the Holy Spirit.
Having experienced the gift and having walked a lifetime with Him and having been a intercessory prayer warrior, let me share my feelings on this.
I feel that the greatest evidence of the filling of the Holy Spirit is not the 'supernatural gifts' such as tongues, but it's the supernatural 'Fruits' of the Holy Spirit as mentioned in 1 Cor 13. I believe that the greatest purpose of those supernatural 'gifts' is to edify the believer. And when done around those that also have them with an interpreter, can also edify all those together in one place.
God's word seems to be quite clear about the gifts and also about how they tend to be abused. His Word also seems to be quite clear how very temporary they are and how very less important they are when compared to the fruits of the Holy Spirit as mentioned in 1 Cor 13.
Now even though Paul said he spoke in tongues A LOT, let me share my feelings on it;
I have spent MANY HOURS in warfare prayer! AND, praying not with the unknown tongue, 'tongues' but with the known and let me tell you ' you talk about being edified!!! When you can pray with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength and hear and understand every word GOD is praying through you ' WOW, there is nothing like it! I am VERY VERY intense and passionate and so when I would warfare pray, I would have to be in a building alone, because I would raise the rafters in shouting, singing and all out prayer and to hear and understand what God was saying is beyond description. No wonder, I would end up penning down the many thoughts He has giving me.
I can't tell you how very insignificant those gifts are to the fruits of the Holy Spirit ' If a person had the Filling with the Fruits flowing from their lives '- I would share with them the beautiful gifts of the Spirit and how since they've experienced the filling of God's Spirit, that they 'could' now also receive His gifts as well and leave it with them to study it out and ask Him for it (tongues). BUT ' and Here is where I would differ with those who feel it SO important to have and practice ' I DON'T feel that the Gifts are NEARLY as important AS having and producing the fruits of the Holy Spirit as 1 Cor 13 states. 1 Cor 13 I feel is one of the greatest chapters God has placed within His Word.
So, this is from one who has them (supernatural gifting) and lived a lifetime loving Him and His Word, that's my take on the subject. Not either end, but dead center on Jesus. We get so hung up on His gifts, we miss Him. He needs to be lifted Up and He will give out the gifts to whosoever He desires.
1 Cor 13: 8-13 8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of [c]prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part; 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I [d]became a man, I did away with childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror [e]dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. 13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the [f]greatest of these is love.
The 'IF' is there for the individual, we know that they exist but the 'IF' is significant ONLY for the individual who may or may not need them (the gifts). We ALL need the fruits, we don't ALL need the supernatural gifts to get them (the fruits) flowing from our lives.
The 'when I was a child' is like I needed training wheels on my bike ( or the gifts ) BUT when I became a man, those training wheels ( gifts ) were no longer needed because I then realized what was TRULY important, THE FRUITS of the Holy Spirit!!! They truly are what needs to be what is emphasized in God's Body today.
Heavenly Father, thank so much for the gifts of the Holy Spirit that are to help us mature to bearing Your Fruits. Ever help us grow in Your Love & be Fruitful to Your Glory, Honor and Praise. In Jesus Glorious Name, Amen.